On the path to healing, self-love, and spiritual awakening, one of the most transformative decisions you’ll make is discerning who truly belongs in your life. As your vibration rises and your clarity sharpens, you may begin to see others more clearly, not as you wish them to be, but as they are.
Evaluating whether someone is a friend, or a foe isn’t about casting judgment; it’s about protecting your peace, energy, and purpose. It's about identifying whether someone is a safe space, a supportive energy or a source of subtle sabotage. And most importantly, it's about loving yourself enough to choose alignment over attachment.
Why It Matters on Your Journey
When you’re focused on personal growth, relationships either help you blossom or they block your bloom. Real friends nurture your growth, celebrate your wins, and hold space for your evolution; you do this for each other. Foes, on the other hand, often appear supportive but diminish your spirit over time through their actions and words. Sometimes, the difference is subtle, which is why discernment is crucial.
To support your journey, we’ve created a spiritual and emotional checklist to help you evaluate the true nature of the relationships in your life.
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Princess B Essentials Healing Checklist: Friend or Foe?
1. Energy Audit:
· Do I feel drained or energized after being with this person?
· Do I shrink or expand in their presence?
2. Words vs. Actions:
· Do their words align with their actions over time?
· Have they shown consistency and care through seasons of my life?
3. Support System or Saboteur?
· Do they celebrate my growth, or do they mock, ignore, or minimize it?
· Are they rooting for my healing and joy, or do they seem uncomfortable with my boundaries and glow-up?
4. Respect for Boundaries:
· Do they honor my “no” without guilt-tripping me?
· Do they make space for my needs, or always prioritize their own?
5. Emotional Safety Check:
· Can I be my most authentic self without fear of ridicule or judgment?
· Do I feel safe sharing my wins, my wounds, and my wisdom with them?
6. Patterns, Not Promises:
· Have I seen consistent patterns of support and integrity — or patterns of betrayal, gossip, or neglect? (Did you know that gossip holds low vibrational energy?)
· Am I holding onto their potential or accepting their reality?
7. Spiritual Alignment:
· Do they respect my healing and spiritual practices — even if they don’t fully understand them?
· Are we spiritually aligned, or is there resistance when I grow deeper in my faith or self-awareness?
8. The Mirror Test:
· Does this relationship reflect the love I’m cultivating within myself — or is it a mirror of old wounds I’m ready to release?
· Does this relationship reflect the version of me I’m becoming — or keep pulling me back into who I used to/ no longer want to be?
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Signs You’re Dealing with a Friend:
· They hold you accountable with love.
· They applaud your boundaries instead of pushing past them.
· They pour into you just as you pour into them.
· They’re present in both your sunshine and your storms.
Signs You May Be Dealing with a Foe in Disguise:
· They subtly compete or compare rather than collaborate.
· They belittle your spiritual journey or call your healing “too much.”
· They gaslight your emotions or make you question your reality.
· They disappear when you’re not convenient—or when you begin to shine too brightly.
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Final Thoughts: Protecting Your Peace is Sacred
Evaluating a friend versus a foe is not about blame, it’s about clarity. On your healing and self-love journey, your circle becomes sacred. You’re allowed to outgrow people. You’re allowed to change the rules. You’re allowed to say, “this doesn’t feel like love anymore.” Some people are in your life for a season and their purpose is to assist with your growth and vice versa.
Keep choosing you. Keep choosing peace. Keep choosing alignment.
Let this checklist be your guide, your mirror, and your permission slip to release what no longer serves your higher self. Pay attention to the signs, the universe (God) will always show you what you need to see.
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Princess B Essentials is here not only to nurture your natural hair but to affirm your natural light. We see you! We honor your healing. And we celebrate the divine friend you are becoming to yourself first and foremost.
Sincerely,
Team PBE
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